Do you praise your children well?

Praise is necessary for children’s self-esteem, so that they feel that they are capable of doing things and so that they also begin to believe in themselves. But sometimes, if the praise or praise that is given to children is not appropriate, is exaggerated or excessive, it can have a negative effect on their personality. So how do you praise children well?

Do you think it is enough to constantly praise or praise your children? If so, you will need to think twice. Praising children is fine, but according to a new study in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science, there is a right way and a wrong way to dish out compliments on children.

The investigation

A group of researchers examined 337 South Korean children in the third, fourth and fifth grades of school to determine how their parents’ praise for school work was related to their academic performance and psychological well-being. the little ones.

The children were first asked to rate the amount of contempt their parents made of them for their performance in school and then they were asked to describe any symptoms of depression or sadness that this made them feel. At the same time, they asked parents questions about how and how much they praised their children, whether they praised their children when the children performed well in school, they asked them about their own academic grades and the income they had at home.

The results

The results were that parents who over praised their children in school work, had worse results in school and also experienced depression to a greater extent when compared to other children whose parents thought that their praise is accurately reflected in reality (without praising in an exaggerated way or too much).

In addition, the researchers found that children who receive excessive contempt from their parents also suffer poor academic performance and great emotional distress.


The results of these investigations highlight the importance of parents making sure they praise their children well, but always based on actual performance, rather than filling children’s minds with motivating mentions that fill their ego but not help them to value themselves in a real way. If children are praised too much they will not have a real and adequate perception of themselves , which can be a problem for their emotional development.

Therefore, praise, praise and compliments play a very important role in the development of children, as long as they are true, sincere and real. They are truly a form of feedback and should be understood as an interactive process, where the way in which praise is perceived, accepted and responded to must be taken into account. Complimenting children heart-to-heart will make adults get emotionally close to children and sometimes even is a way to address problems that may exist in children, an impetus to improve academic and psychological results.

What to do

Parents need to listen to their hearts and feel that words of contempt are like daggers that pierce their children’s hearts and that excessive praise can so enlarge their ego that their perception of themselves is distorted. In all this, it is convenient that parents always praise to boost motivation from reality and the real characteristics of their children.